10 Years Ago! Flashback with Hillary Williams

10 years ago – end of 2009, Hillary Williams surprised me with a little adventure.  It had become a MMA Girls tradition (the year before she surprised me with paintball).  I had absolutely no clue! I had thought we were going to a shooting range.  I was already nervous because I had only shot a gun once in my life.

Then to my even bigger surprise I found out we were sky diving.  Both her and my camera guy/partner Keith, had kept it a secret  – thankfully they did because I probably would have chickened out haha.  Here is a picture from after and a video of the whole ordeal.  So crazy that this was 10 years ago! Time flies! Hope everyone had a great start to 2020!

Ask a Fighter

528750_326947620693094_2096305729_nMMA Girls fighter Rosanna Garcia answers your questions.

Do female fighters prefer to date male fighters?

I wouldn’t necessarily say that a female fighter would prefer to date a male fighter, but dating does happen at any gym. You’re around the same people so much that you’re bound to catch feelings for someone. It’s just going to depend if you’re going to act on it.

My advice?

DON’T. DO. IT.

The main reason being that there’s a lot of people who leave the gym because of it. Some schools have strict rules against it as well just because it can affect the camaraderie of a school. BUT…since you’re going to do it anyway, here’s the best way to go about it before, during, and after the relationship.

Before:
Ask yourself, if **** goes down and it’s a bad breakup, do I see this person potentially ruining my gym life? And am I strong enough to separate my personal life from my gym life?

During:
Only tell people you trust, if at all.
Don’t bring your drama or issues into the gym or at gym functions.
Separate your personal life from your gym life as much as possible.

After:
Good luck lol. In all seriousness though, just make sure you respect the gym. No trash talking, no advice asking, no crying. If you have to take a short break, cool. Just don’t lose your head or you might as well find another gym.

But seriously though, good luck.

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rosannafightMMA Girls fighter Rosanna Garcia answers your questions.

What’s the best way to find a trainer/gym? 

Rosanna: I know some people who have taken 2 buses and 2 different metro lines just to get to the gym they want. So when you do find the gym that’s right for you don’t be surprised if you will go to an amazing length to stay there. The people you train with are going to become your second family, and you’re going to want to make sure you feel welcome.

I found the gym I train at through my brother. I’d also heard of it before through friends while I was away at college, I just didn’t understand what they were taking about lol. If you have friends in the MMA world you can definitely ask them for an opinion, and every gym is going to have its own culture so it’s truly going to depend on what you’re looking for. Do you want to train at a competition school? Do you want more of a family friendly environment? And one category doesn’t mean it’s not the other. You can go to a competition school that is super welcoming, but also pushes the pace if you want to be a professional fighter.

When you do check out a recommended school, or a school you just Googled cause you live near it, you will know within 15 minutes if it’s the school for you. Everyone wants something different out of their gym.

Now, if you want to be a Professional MMA fighter or BJJ superstar, then you obviously want to go where the big names and the medals are. To be a World Class fighter you need a World Class teacher. However, what is listed above still applies. You want to be at a place that is the right fit for you.

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MMA Girls fighter Rosanna Garcia answers your questions.
2) I’m a female wanting to start MMA, but I’m scared.  What advice could you give me? 
Rosanna: Wait until you’re not scared and then start, or start going until you’re not scared. Look, training to be a fighter is in and of itself ,”scary”. But you have to face it head on. You have to fake it til you make it, and you have to embrace failure. Because you’re going to fail OVER and OVER again until you succeed. But as a woman you’re going to face several things that a man never will.
1) You’re going to be told not to fight because you’re a woman.
“What if you get hit in the chest?”
“Oh my goodness, but you’re a GIRL! Girls’ don’t do that.”
“What if you get hurt?”
“I don’t want to see my baby girl get hit in the face.”
My advice? You don’t have to try to convince anyone to not tell you these things,  you just have to convince yourself that this things don’t make a difference in you wanting to train in MMA.
The other thing is that you’re going to train with mostly men. They’re almost always going to be stronger and faster. Don’t let this discourage you. Why? Because you’re going to fight women. And if you’re boyfriend or husband gets jealous? Well you can’t find a new husband but you can find a new boyfriend. As for reassuring a guy, it might stem from jealousy so just make sure that you let your guy know it’s always going to be him. Guys like that. lol
In the end, people are always going to try to talk you out of doing a violent sport, and especially when you’re a woman. It’s just that the reasons are going to be a lot more sexist than a man would ever hear. If you can tune out all the voices, EVEN the ones that come from family and friends (which will be the ones that will try to hamper your dreams the most), then you’ll be alright. If you can’t tune out people telling you not to then you most likely won’t have the inner mental voice to be a fighter. It’s almost impossible to go through a fight camp without that inner voice telling you to keep going no matter what.

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